Bharat SainiLast Updated on October 27, 2020 by Bharat Saini
Choosing to have a baby is one of the biggest choices you can make, and when it comes to choosing an egg donor, there is a whole different set of pressures that need to be considered.
When it comes to biology, we get what we are given, but when biology does not quite work out how you planned, then technology can take over and help make your family complete in a different way. However, there is a lot more choice when it comes to choosing someone else’s eggs, and it can be difficult to even understand where you would even want to begin.
This piece will discuss how you can find the right egg donor for you.
Make Sure You Are Ready
Despite what people say about knowing when you have “found the one” or when you are certain you want a puppy, it is not always that straight forward. Big life changes are terrifying, especially when you have to involve someone else. Making sure you are ready does not mean you’re not scared or that you will not have moments where you wake up one day and wonder if you did the right thing, but it does mean honoring that responsibility and loving your child unconditionally whatever happens. If you are ready for that – you are ready for anything.
Fresh or Frozen?
When it comes to fruit and veg, there is an argument that there is little difference between fresh and frozen, but when it comes to donor eggs, there are a few nuances to consider especially as donor eggs cost significantly more than a bag of frozen carrots.
Those who are hoping for a larger family might find that fresh eggs are a better option as the success rate can be higher, though it often means that there is a smaller number of embryos to work with. Frozen eggs give you more chances of getting pregnant and offer a chance to give your offspring biological siblings later down the line.
Make sure to do your research to find out which option will be best for you and what they both offer before choosing your egg donor.
What Qualities are Most Important to You?
One of the unique factors in using an egg donor is that you have much more choice about the qualities or characteristics that your child could have. Think about what is most important to you and use that to guide you in choosing your egg donor.
Some important things to consider will be family medical history, genetics, physical and mental health, and other crucial factors. Some soon-to-be parents will want to choose a donor with similar features to them such as eye and hair color. They might also want to consider if their donors have a similar personality to them, if their morals and values align, and if any other background issues could cause a problem.
Don’t be afraid to get to know your egg donor in person and ask them as many questions as you think is necessary until you are able to make an informed decision. Genetics and epigenetics do play a decent part in how a child will grow, but your love and input into their life will be just as important, if not more.
